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Growing up, I always had things. My family wasn’t extremely rich but I’d say we were a normal upper-middle-class family, and pretty much everything I wanted I got. Whether it was a new outfit or the latest cell phone. The thing is, I never really cared about the majority of these things. It just seemed like in order to keep up with the latest and greatest, I needed to consume.

As an adult, I continued on this same path of getting things because I could or just impulse buying things that I would probably only use once and never look…

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February is the month of love, and with it comes words and confessions of love and heartful messages about how much you care.

But you know what makes the words “I care about you!” 10 times better?

Actions to back them up!

So I compiled a list of 20 ways you can show someone you care!

1.Send them a handwritten note and mail it to them! This is a lost art! So sending a special letter, note or card in the mail will be a beautiful surprise.

2. Offer to do a chore they don’t particularly care to do! If…

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Earlier this year after returning back to US soil with the COVID pandemic at its height, I launched a business utilizing a skill that I’ve always been great at. Not to toot my own horn but the timing was perfect.

Many people were shifting to an online driven business or launching their own businesses and my skill set was perfect for these budding entrepreneurs. I launched a new page, created all these materials, and put the pedal to the medal. My new business was quickly gaining traction and I had potential clients coming left and right. I thought “This is…

Spending time and energy getting to know someone and then having to walk away sucks, but we still take the leap by jumping into a new relationship. Sometimes we take that leap and you’ve found your life long partner, and sometimes you take that leap only to realize this isn’t right for me.

Coming to the realization that someone isn’t right for you doesn’t mean they were a bad person and I personally had to learn that myself to stop feeling so guilty when things didn’t work out.

Sometimes in the midst of finding out if a particular person is…

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Dating in 2020 feels like an extreme sport.

Full of adventure, high speeds and a very high level of exertion. I’m convinced that people don’t know how to date anymore.

For the most part, people are either just looking for a quick fling or they immediately think every person they meet and have even the slightest connection with is “the one” and social media doesn’t make it any better. …

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Often times when people hear the phrases “starting over” or “begin again” its met with feelings of anxiety, shame or guilt.

As humans we naturally want to succeed, when we put effort into we want to see the fruits of our labor. So its difficult to think about all your time and energy into something or someone only to have it not work out as we thought it would.

I was once one of those people who dreaded two things.

  1. Failure
  2. Starting over

I would hold onto relationships, jobs and sometimes even my own ideologies because I did not want…

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I’m moving to China! It still sounds wild to say this out loud. I have less than 2 weeks until I travel across the world and I have a wide range of emotions…but let me back up and tell you how I even got here.

In June or July of 2019, I was sitting at work listening to one of my favorite podcast, On Purpose with Jay Shetty (if you aren’t listening to him then what are you doing with your life? …

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Hey single person! Come closer. I’m going to let you in on a little secret.

Are you ready?

It’s totally okay to desire to be in a relationship! As I scroll social media (much more than I should) I keep seeing the same narrative that goes something like this.

“I’m doing me, no one has time to be worried about a boo or marriage. Let me get this money, you can keep your marriage dreams.” or “You want a husband and I’m catching flights.”

Its as if being in a relationship and being single have this war brewing between them…

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As someone who has both friend zoned and been friend zoned, I just want to tell you to stop trying to get out of it! While its never fun to have your crush put you in what seems like a time out space, there are actually some great benefits to being just friends with someone you’re interested in.

  1. You actually build a solid friendship — Not one that is based on feelings of infatuation, but genuinely taking the time to get to know someone for who they are as a person without any ill motives attached. I remember a guy…

We don’t give people chances to grow and evolve.

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Recently, I’ve heard various comments or remarks(jokingly and otherwise)regarding a previous season in my life that I wrote about here:

These remarks are often laced with people thinking I’m still attached or even in the same mindset I was in when all of it was unraveling. At first I questioned myself like,

“Had I really healed? Am I really over it? Am I free emotionally and spiritually?”

I stopped myself from having these thoughts of second guessing and realized, most of these remarks either stemmed from 1 of 2 things

  1. People…

Kiara Janai

minimalism | realationships | faith | lifestyle

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